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Thursday, November 5, 2009

You Don't Have to be a Martyr to be a Great Mom!

Being a mom does not mean that you have to “take one for the team.” Really, you can be a stay-at-home-mom or any other kind of mom (i.e. a work-at-home-mom, a full-time working mom, etc. etc.) and have a glorious and fun existence. My good friend Dawn helped to bring this to my attention. We were talking about our own moms and how many moms out there have a real “martyr” mindset and how it does not have to be like that. You don’t have to feel pain and sacrifice everything in the name of your children to be a good (even the best possible) mom! So many moms from our mother’s generation (60ish years old) have this thing where they need to feel like they have given up their own lives for their children. Not only do they need to feel this way but they also feel a burning desire to talk about it at every given opportunity and even some created opportunities. I am not saying that they did not sacrifice for us or that their sacrifices mean nothing. What I am saying is that if you are going to be the best mother to your children possible then you need to own it! As a mother you should be proud of who you are and the choices that you have made so that your kids can love the life they live. No matter who says what!

Being an awesome mom does not mean that you cannot take a shower because they want to do something else and then you go around complaining about how you do not get to even do simple things like shower. It means that if you choose to do something with your children other than make them sit in the bathroom floor while you shower (guilty!) then own it! Be happy about the decisions you make. If you are confident in your self and happy about your life then these feelings will inevitably penetrate into the lives of your children and make being a mother fun! Remember, I did not say that it is not the toughest (emotionally and physically) job in the world I just said you have to make it fun! Now go shower!

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