Saturday, August 22, 2009

When He Is Away...

I do seem to get more done when he is not home. Why the heck would that be true? I have two children three and under so it is not like help is not of value to me. I certainly do need and readily accept help but I noticed last Tuesday night when my husband went to play tennis, which he does every Tuesday night, that every time he is gone I seem to get everything done no problem and have both girls in bed on time, early even. Then I started thinking about times when he has been gone for a couple of days at a time and how I always get the laundry done and the house in order during his absence. My husband is by no means lazy at all. He cooks, takes care of the kids, and straightens the house as well as the rest of them (husbands )but for some reason things are neater, easier, and sometimes more peaceful when he is away…Is it because he is like having another kid?

I could argue for or against this at any given time but I think the true answer is; maybe. For example I don’t mind if my kids are whining for a few minutes because they want my attention but I am cleaning up the living room before their bath so I don’t have to do it once I come down from putting them to bed. But when my husband is home I can’t allow them to whine because he cannot tolerate that sound. So the house stays messy until either he cleans it up while I am bathing them, he comes down and cleans it up, or I come down and clean it up. Which means we get “done” later.

Or maybe it is even because of the mess he makes. If it isn’t the clothes, shoes, and work bag all around the house then it is the dirty dishes from the meal he had to have when I could have been happy with a sandwich or a bowl of cereal. All I can tell you is that he is gone right now (to Kentucky for a Fantasy Football draft which may be the topic of another post for the way I feel about that…) and it is 8:00 pm, both kids are sound asleep and I am having a glass of wine while writing this post. I will probably be asleep very soon myself.

The “why” of it I may never know but what I do know is that I am not alone. So many of my friends have the same experiences when their husbands are gone. Maybe we should start a new holiday and call it “Productive Women’s Day” when we all send our husbands away so we can get stuff done!


  1. Glad I am not the only mother and wife who has those same thoughts...I just kept them in my head because I thought that was "unusual" to think that especially when husbands can be very helpful,kind and considerate.
    -Cathy Christy